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 father is full of challenges=2E=A0 Sometimes, you don=92t know what to do=2E=
=A0 One of my sons came home from school last week with a very sad look on h=
is face=2E=A0 With a serious and penitent expression, he told us that he had=
 blown up a toilet at school with a fire cracker=2E=A0 It was only a small c=
racker, and he wanted to see how high the water would go=2E=A0 You see he is=
 quite good at maths and science=2E=A0 Unfortunately the vitreous china of t=
he toilet bowl couldn=92t take the shockwave, and it cracked and disintegrat=
ed=2E=A0 Water went everywhere=2E=A0 To make matters worse, he is the School=
 Captain and he had some younger guys with him who were greatly interested i=
n his scientific experiment=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3EWhat do you do when your son blows up the school toilet=3F</FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EFirstly, I told him he had to pay for a=
 new toilet and take whatever punishment was coming to him=2E=A0 (Four after=
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 (I didn=92t know whether to laugh or cry)=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3D=
Verdana size=3D2=3EYou see, explosives run in our family DNA=2E=A0 I remembe=
r when I was a little boy of six years of age coming home from Scotland=2E=A0=
 Dad met us at Circular Quay in Sydney=2E=A0 We had been away for two years=2E=
=A0 To celebrate our arrival back in Australia, Dad lit several tuppenny bun=
gers on the foreshore near the wharf=2E=A0 Mum wasn=92t impressed, but my br=
other and I were very impressed with our =91with it=92 dad=2E=A0 Fireworks e=
xhibitions were always a top priority for Dad and his two =91boys=92=2E=A0 W=
e graduated to making our own fireworks and gunpowder, and in my early high =
school years, I spent a lot of time trying to make sulphuric and nitric acid=
 so that I could make nitro-glycerine=2E=A0 Looking back I=92m glad I never =
succeeded=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAs a father,=
 I could have conveniently hid that bit of my past and roused on my son for =
his misdemeanour, but I had to be honest=2E=A0 I was as guilty as he was=2E=A0=
 On the other hand I could have congratulated him on his scientific=A0endeav=
our and disregarded the consequences of his actions=2E=A0 In my case either =
reaction would have been=A0wrong=2E=A0 My son was only following in my foots=
teps=2E=A0 Dennis Rainey says, =91Every dad is the family role model, whethe=
r he wants the job or not=92=2E=A0 In this situation I was actually part of =
my son=92s problem=2E=A0 I was greatly relieved that the teachers exercised =
great grace in the matter=2E=A0 The good new is that he wasn=92t expelled fr=
om school=2E=A0 Perhaps you could say, all=92s well that ends well=2E</FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe lesson for us here is that it=
 is important that we are good role models and not bad ones=2E=A0 Our childr=
en will become what we are as fathers=2E=A0 That=92s why it is so important =
to work on ourselves and stamp out our bad habits before they reproduce them=
selves=2E=A0 </FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe other l=
esson is that it is important that as fathers we are honest about our own we=
aknesses and failings=2E=A0 We can=92t hide them=2E=A0 Our wives and childre=
n know our faults and failures=2E=A0 Honesty is always the best policy=2E=A0=
 Admitting our weakness to our family will help begin the process of=A0chang=
e in us=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ENo more nitro-=
glycerine for me=2E=A0 I don=92t want to be paying for a new toilet block=2E=
=A0 I can hardly pay for my phone bill as it is=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT =
face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhat is the lovework for this week=3F</FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhy don=92t we admit our weaknesses and=
 failures to our wives and children and then make a plan for change=3F</FONT=
=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhatever you do, don=92t phone=
 me for the formula for gunpowder=2E=A0 I have forgotten it already=2E</FONT=
=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EHave a great week=2E=A0 All th=
e best with your =91changes=92</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3EYours for better dads<BR=3EWarwick Marsh<BR=3EFatherhood Foundation</FON=
T=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F<=
/FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWarwick Ma=
rsh is the founder of the Fatherhood Foundation=2E=A0 Married for 27 years h=
e is the father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age fro=
m 21 years to 9 years=2E=A0 Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and =
public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself (and make ni=
tro-glycerine)=2E=A0 Get real Marshie!!!<BR=3E</FONT=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana =
size=3D2=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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NT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EEditors Note</STRONG=3E:<BR=3EThe onl=
y way to print or see the newsletter with photos and graphics is to stay on =
line=2E=A0 The images are stored on the email application source site so tha=
t your email memory does not become clogged=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E<br=3E=
<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</=
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th=3D1 bgcolor=3D#999999 nowrap rowspan=3D19=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=
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#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/template=
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' face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a na=
me=3D'anchor2'=3E</a=3E<b=3EDads with Young Children </b=3E</font=3E<font fa=
ce=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=
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=5Ftodd sleepingSSGP1710=2EJPG' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <P class=3DMsoNormal=
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ize=3D2=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm =
0cm 0pt' align=3Dcenter=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=
=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana si=
ze=3D2=3E<STRONG=3ETHE ART OF FATHERING=A0 <BR=3EHomework Headache</STRONG=3E=
<BR=3Eby Paul Sloan </FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT =
face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWho wishes they were a parent back in the good old=
 days of the three R=92s, Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic=3F Teaching homew=
ork would have been so much easier and perhaps a little less embarrassing! N=
ow, we have the three A=92s, Algebra, Algorithms, and Ask your father=2E The=
 once =91know it all=92 parent has now become the knowing very little studen=
t =96 HELP!</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVe=
rdana size=3D2=3EHow times have changed=2E Remember getting asked at school =
what you wanted to be when you grew up=3F If you weren=92t going to be a Pol=
iceman, Fireman, or Doctor =96 you were probably going to do exactly what yo=
ur parents did=2E Nowadays, you first aspire to the top 5% of your school in=
 your HSC =96 this SHOULD get you into a University course of your choice =96=
 pending results better than a credit average =96 this SHOULD hold you in go=
od stead to at least obtain employment, a position somewhere without the cat=
ch-cry =93would you like fries with that=3F=94 But hey, we all have to start=
 somewhere=2E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3D=
Verdana size=3D2=3EMy eldest is in year 7, and the amount of, and level of h=
omework brought home on a daily basis is incredible=2E Oh, and the fights we=
 must put up with about who gets to mark it, with my wife and myself continu=
ally jousting for the privilege (Yeah right!!) It is so hard, as the omni-in=
telligent parents, to sit there befuddled and confused as to whether the 12 =
year old has completed their homework correctly or not=2E We want to have al=
l the answers for our children, in all areas, homework included=2E However, =
that is not always possible, and thankfully we can now say to our young high=
-schooler =96 =93Mate, not too sure, just ask your teacher=94=2E I am so tha=
nkful that the education department understands the enormous progression we =
have seen in the curriculum today, and the pending transition we parents mus=
t endure=2E No need for embarrassment, no need to make excuses, just the com=
forting (almost) thought that we are just one of the many parents finding ou=
rselves in the same predicament=2E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3D=
EN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI believe there comes a point in our=
 lives, where we as parents, realise that we cannot be the providers of ALL =
things for our children=2E When it comes to elements such as basic life skil=
ls, the learning of integrity, ethics and morals, and the ability to show lo=
ve and compassion, this is where parents shine, and must continue to do so=2E=
 However, when it comes to elements such as the homework scenario mentioned =
above, well, I suppose we have to let that one go=2E If I could give one tip=
 to young fathers today, it would be this; be diligent and sound in the area=
s that you know, the areas that a parent feels are important and life changi=
ng, and for those areas that have now been put beyond our reach =96 ask the =
teacher!=A0 </FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdan=
a size=3D2=3E<P=3E<BR=3ETill next time<BR=3EPaul Sloan=A0 </P=3E<P=3E=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerd=
ana size=3D2=3EPaul Sloan is an accountant working with Equipglobal=2E=A0 He=
 is married with three children aged one, nine and eleven years=2E=A0 Paul i=
s an active surfer who lives on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland=2E=A0 He is=
 a family man who hasn=92t lost his sense of humour=2E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E=
<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to=
 top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E<=
/tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img sr=
c=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template=
1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 he=
ight=3D12 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/e=
mail=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E=
<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif' color=3Db=
lack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor3'=3E</a=3E<b=3EGrandads</b=3E</font=3E<font f=
ace=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Eboswe=
b=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue5 - 30th Sept, 200=
2=5Fboy&pupSSGP1884=2EJPG' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVe=
rdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVe=
rdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E=
<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EGrandad's Wisdom</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<STRONG=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E<=
/STRONG=3E=A0</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3D'Comic Sans MS' size=3D6=
=3EIt takes time to be a good father=2E=A0 It takes effort =96 trying, faili=
ng and trying again</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana s=
ize=3D2=3E<STRONG=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT f=
ace=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3ETim Hansel<BR=3E</P=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E=
<P=3E=A0</P=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#=
top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</blockqu=
ote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' no=
wrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fa=
thers/template1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td =
width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Eboswe=
b=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/fade=2Egif'=3E=
<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-se=
rif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor4'=3E</a=3E<b=3ELaughter</b=3E</=
font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http=
://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue5 - =
30th Sept, 2002=5Ftwogirls=2EJPG' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <FONT face=3DVerda=
na size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=
=3DVerdana size=3D6=3E<FONT face=3D'Comic Sans MS'=3EBefore I got married, I=
 had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children and no=
 theories</FONT=3E=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=
=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3ELord Rochester</STRONG=3E<BR=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=
=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=
=A0</P=3E</FONT=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D=
'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</block=
quote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' =
nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/=
fathers/template1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<t=
d width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebos=
web=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/fade=2Egif'=
=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans=
-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor5'=3E</a=3E<b=3ESingle Dads</=
b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D=
'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissu=
e5 - 30th Sept, 2002=5Fdad&baby girlSSGP1322=2EJPG' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E =
<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3Efrom Roland Foster</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana =
size=3D2=3EHi folks!=A0 What is your plan of action for today, for this week=
=3F</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhenever=
 there=92s a change in our lifestyle, whether intended or unexpected, we gen=
erally develop plans for the future=2E=A0 For separated fathers, these plans=
 are often thwarted by the government bureaucracies that try to =91help=92 u=
s by taking control of our lives=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT fa=
ce=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EOne response to this is a 30% unemployment rate for =
separated fathers, and a further 24% with an income lower than =BD the natio=
nal average=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=
=3EAnother response is the establishment, over the last 20 years, of many co=
mmunity based non-custodial parent groups=2E Their focus has been to lobby f=
or reform of the Family law Court and Child Support Agency=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EVery little has been achie=
ved=2E=A0 The Family Law Court continues to remove children from their fathe=
rs, engineer family breakdown, promote conflict and hinder reconciliation=2E=
=A0 The Child Support Agency continues as one of the most destructive instit=
utions ever inflicted upon Australian society, comparable with the Aborigina=
l Protection Board=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana s=
ize=3D2=3EThe community groups have failed because reform is not possible=2E=
=A0 These institutions are fundamentally flawed and should be abolished=2E=A0=
 This requires changes to the law=2E=A0 As individuals we may feel overwhelm=
ed and powerless when confronted by the immensity of this task=2E</FONT=3E</=
P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EHowever, I believe tha=
t the influence of many individuals, acting independently, but in unity, is =
sufficient to bring about legislative change and social reform=2E</FONT=3E</=
P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EConsider the high unem=
ployment rate and low incomes of separated fathers=2E=A0 This is a result of=
 individual action and costs the Federal Government $1=2E2 billion in unempl=
oyment benefits each year=2E=A0 A further $2 billion is lost from taxation r=
evenue because of lower incomes=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT fac=
e=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EHere are some suggestions for individual action:</FON=
T=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E1=2E=A0Exercise =
your right to challenge decisions made by the Child Support Agency=2E<BR=3EI=
f each paying parent exercised just 10% of their rights each year, the cost =
to the CSA would be over $10 billion each year=2E=A0 This would effectively =
cripple and shut down the CSA=2E=A0 The Fairness in Child Support group (FIC=
S), PO Box 80, Coniston NSW 2500 email: <A href=3D'mailto:jef02@hotmail=2Eco=
m'=3Ejef02@hotmail=2Ecom</A=3E=A0can provide details on how to achieve this=2E=
</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E2=2E=A0Exer=
cise your right to go to Court and represent yourself=2E<BR=3EIf 10% of sepa=
rated parents took advantage of just 10% of the opportunities to initiate Fa=
mily Law Court action, there would be an additional 100,000 hearings each ye=
ar=2E=A0 This would create havoc in the Family Court and have Federal Parlia=
mentarians choking on their cornflakes=2E=A0 Representing yourself would als=
o help abolish the multi-billion dollar Family Law Industry which is strippi=
ng Australian families of their income and assets=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3D=
left=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EFurther details on this action are al=
so available from FICS=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerda=
na size=3D2=3EIn the mean time, remember that many of the best things in lif=
e are free=2E=A0 Why not take some time this week to go for a surf, read a b=
ook, contact an old friend or skim some pebbles over a pond=2E=A0 Your child=
ren are important=2E=A0 They need you=2E=A0 be there for them as much as you=
 can=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ERola=
nd Foster<BR=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=
Roland Foster is a non-custodial father, separated since 1997, with 5 young =
children now aged between 6 and 14 years=2E=A0 He has worked as a schoolteac=
her, principal, businessman and builder's labourer=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=
=3Dleft=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EHe is an active social reformer wh=
o believes Australia's current laws are contributing to the creation of our =
fatherless society=2E=A0 Roland is a passionate father committed to staying =
involved in the lives of his children=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E<br=3E<br=3E=
<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</=
font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E=
<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://=
www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/ba=
nner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bg=
color=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast=
/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font =
size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E=
<a name=3D'anchor6'=3E</a=3E<b=3ESpecial Feature</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D=
'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Eco=
m=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue5 - 30th Sept, 2002=5Fri=
ding riding=2EJPG' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <FONT face=3DTahoma size=3D4=3E<P=
 align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThis week=92s feature is a=
nother excerpt from =91Fathers Who Dare Win=92, Strategies for Effective Fat=
hering, by Ian Grant, 1999, Pa=92s Publishing, Rozelle=2E<BR=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EFa=
thers Who Dare Win</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3EI have read many books about fathering and it is great to see them in th=
e marketplace=2E=A0 However my suspicion is that not many men read them=2E=A0=
 If they do, transferring the theory into practical ideas is not always easy=
=2E=A0 I am convinced that most men have an innate desire to be good fathers=
, but with the jungle of media and societal messages, many of us have lost o=
ur way and our creativity=2E=A0 I also know that we live in a real world of =
deadlines and demands on our time=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=
 size=3D2=3EI have called this book =91Fathers Who Dare Win=92 because I rea=
lly admire disciplined and trained men and what they can achieve=2E</FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI have always been drawn to books=
 about the S=2EA=2ES=2E because of their tradition of courage, honour and co=
mpassion =96 the best ideals of manhood=2E=A0 The qualities of S=2EA=2ES=2E =
trained men are interesting=2E=A0 Each man is an expert in many specialities=
, but he operates with high personal discipline and team-work=2E</FONT=3E</P=
=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EHe doesn=92t flaunt his leadership=2E=
=A0 He doesn=92t wear epaulettes to declare his authority; he has earned it=2E=
<BR=3EHe doesn=92t use a =91scatter gun=92 approach, but uses his skills and=
 equipment wisely=2E<BR=3EHe never brags about his position or achievements,=
 but is quietly confident he=92s done a good job=2E<BR=3EHe rates zero per c=
ent on the =91BS=92 scale=2E He clearly knows where reality ends and fantasy=
 starts=2E<BR=3EHe knows who is running the show, where the buck stops=2E<BR=
=3EHe has the guts to improve where his is weak=2E<BR=3EHe is proactive when=
 action is needed to address a difficult task=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT fa=
ce=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThese, I believe, are six great qualities for a dad,=
 too=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
=5F=5F</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EIan Grant is the f=
ather of 3 children, a public speaker, author, television and radio host in =
New Zealand=2E=A0 Together with his wife Mary, he establishes, =91Parenting =
with Confidence=92 in 1994, a non-profit organisation to help parents=2E=A0 =
He is a humorous speaker with loads of practical pointers for dads and mums=2E=
<BR=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D=
2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</=
font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D13 bgcolo=
r=3D'#ffffff' nowrap=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fbl=
ast/templates/fathers/template1/Generic/banner=2Ejpg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E<=
/tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D'#ffffff' background=3D'ht=
tp://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templates/fathers/template1/Gener=
ic/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3 face=3D'Verdana, Arial, H=
elvetica, sans-serif' color=3Dblack=3E<br=3E<a name=3D'anchor7'=3E</a=3E<b=3E=
Thought for the Week</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<=
br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5F=
images/fathers=5Fissue5 - 30th Sept, 2002=5Ftoddlers faceSSGP0560=2EJPG' ali=
gn=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <P=3E<P=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: =
' New Times AR-SA=3F mso-bidi-language: EN-AU; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso=
-fareast-language: Roman=3F; =3FTimes mso-fareast-font-family: 10=2E0pt; mso=
-bidi-font-size:=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcente=
r=3E<FONT face=3D'Comic Sans MS' size=3D6=3E<STRONG=3EWhat was silent in the=
 father speaks in the son, and often I have found in the son the unveiled se=
cret of the father=2E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E<FONT fac=
e=3DTahoma size=3D4=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EFriedrich Wi=
lhelm Neitzsche</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E<BR=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div ali=
gn=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3EBack to top</a=3E</font=3E<=
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pg' width=3D595=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E<td width=3D578 height=3D25 bgcolor=3D=
'#ffffff' background=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/templat=
es/fathers/template1/Generic/fade=2Egif'=3E<blockquote=3E<p=3E<font size=3D3=
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e=3D'anchor8'=3E</a=3E<b=3ENews & Info</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' =
size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/ema=
il=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue5 - 30th Sept, 2002=5Fgirl in sand=
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size=3D2=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: ' New Times AR-SA=3F=
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- Thursday, 10th October, 2002</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3EThe Fatherh=
ood Foundation is organising a charity concert at the Yallah Woolshed (Wollo=
ngong) to raise some much needed funds=2E=A0 The <STRONG=3EMarshes</STRONG=3E=
 will be supporting a young band called <STRONG=3EBlind=2E</STRONG=3E=A0 It =
will be a wonderful night of great food and great music for all the family=2E=
</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<STRONG=3EDinner & Show:=A0 Adults $42=2E50=A0 Child=
ren: $23=2E50</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<STRONG=3EShow Only:=A0 Adul=
ts $15=2E00=A0 Children: $10=2E00</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dleft=3E<STRONG=3E=
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s</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E*=A0I recently saw an ad on TV put out by th=
e Fatherhood Foundation=2E=A0 I was thrilled to see fathers being encouraged=
 in their parenting=2E=A0 In our Aussie culture of knocking people, it=92s g=
reat to see dads being praised for the part they play in families=2E=A0 My k=
ids need their dad!=A0 I know many families are without dads every day, but =
hopefully ads like this one will encourage dads to be part of their children=
=92s and partner=92s lives=2E=A0 We need strong families in order to have a =
strong nation=2E</P=3E<P=3EGood on you Fatherhood Foundation!<BR=3E<STRONG=3E=
Kerry Reece</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P align=3Dcenter=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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ll involved with fathersonline, its great to see that someone has realized f=
athers have feelings and needs just like mothers=2E<BR=3E=A0<BR=3EI have jus=
t read last week=92s comment left by a very angry mum who needs to realize t=
hat there are guys out there that have had the same treatment=2E I am a sing=
le Dad of three children aged 6, 13 and 21=2E Not all men are the same=2E=A0=
 My X was a heavy drinker as yours was, by your letter=2E I have been left w=
ith a bitter pill like you, but I know not all women are the same=2E My kids=
 are happy, honest and all doing well in school and at work which makes me a=
 very proud Dad=2E<BR=3E=A0<BR=3EMaybe I could say the help around for women=
 outweighs anything for men and the treatment men get from the courts in a l=
ot of cases is over the top=2E </P=3E<P=3EIn my case I have the support of m=
y family=2E=A0 Since I moved back from WA my X and I are on talking terms an=
d that=92s all=2E=A0 I have no help with anything other than airfares from h=
er which we pay half each (by order of the courts) so they see her once a ye=
ar and that is her choice=2E</P=3E<P=3EYes, you have had a rough time of it,=
 but please remember that there are just as many fathers out there that don=92=
t see their kids because of the lies deceit and crap that their ex-wives hav=
e come up within the realm of the divorce courts=2E</P=3E<P=3EPlease just re=
member not all fathers are the same so give some of us a chance=2E</P=3E<P=3E=
<STRONG=3EBarry McCartney=A0=A0<A href=3D'mailto:banditone@hotkey=2Enet=2Eau=
'=3Ebanditone@hotkey=2Enet=2Eau</A=3E</STRONG=3E</P=3E<P=3E<STRONG=3E</STRON=
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e to say what a great news letter and totally awesome idea!=A0 Way down here=
 in Sth Vic there are a few of us who are genuinely trying to live these pri=
nciples out and cope through the tears and the laughter=2E Continue the grea=
t work=2E=A0=A0<BR=3E<BR=3EBy the way here's something my 3 year old said to=
 me the other day when he turned the gas heater on=2E =93Hey Dad ya want me =
to put the child lock on=3F'<BR=3E=A0<BR=3E<STRONG=3ECol Batterbury=A0 <A hr=
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